(Video lesson excerpt from my flagship program: World-Class Agent Academy)
Everyone wants more balance in life. But is it possible, and if so, how do you achieve a more balanced and harmonious state of life?
Essentially, what we have to do is:
1. We have to learn how to prioritize the right way
2. We have to learn how to manage distractions
3. We have to learn how to say NO and stop overcommitting ourselves
4. We have to learn how to deal with the unexpected things in life
To expand on these points:
1. We have to learn how to prioritize the right way.
And I'd like to start by asking you a few simple questions:
If today WAS your last day to live, what would be your greatest regret?
What would you wish you would have taken more time for?
What are the three MOST important things in your life? The things that you couldn't and wouldn't want to live without?
Now, take a look at your daily schedule.
How much time are you ACTUALLY committing to those three things on a regular basis? Quality time, where you're fully present - without any distractions?
Here's the moment of truth:
If those things really are most important to you in life ... when are you going to start treating them that way? What is in the way?
To help you think through this, let's take a look at Steven Covey's Big Rock principle. If you picture a jar, a bunch of large rocks, a whole lot of small rocks, some sand and gravel - these would be the BIG rocks representing the most important things in your life - and they have to go in the jar first.
Once those are placed, the small rocks, the sand, and the gravel can fill the in-between.
However, most people do it the other way around. They sort sand and gravel all day long, and at the end of their day, they try to fit in the BIG rocks - and that just doesn't work.
The bottom line is: You've got to know your priorities in life - and MORE importantly - you've got to treat them that way.
2. We need to learn how to manage distractions.
We all know and own the #1 distraction in today's day and age. Our smartphones.
And studies show that a phone addiction is 10 times harder to break than a drug addiction.
There's constantly some kind of notification going off - in fact, how many times do you wake up in the morning and check your phone before you do anything else?
And how many times do you just want to quickly text someone, and 20 minutes later, you're still scrolling through your newsfeed?
Why do we give our smartphones more time, attention, and preference than we give to the people we love?
... Something for all of us to think about and intentionally work on.
3. We have to learn how to say NO to the less important things in life … so we can say YES to the most important things in life - in other words - we have to stop overcommitting ourselves.
How many projects have you started that are still not finished, and that could have been finished by now if you didn't feel as overwhelmed?
How many projects are you currently working on that you wished you had never agreed to?
And hey ... I get it! We want to be nice to people, and so when people ask us to do something for them, we put our own agenda on hold and say yes to them when on the inside, everything within us is screaming NO.
And I think we do that because we don't want to disappoint anyone ...
The easiest and most efficient way of saying NO is time blocking. It's an amazing concept that is simple, and yet - if actually applied - can literally be life-changing.
4. We have to learn how to deal with the unexpected things in life that often knock the breath out of us and cause us to lose our balance and sometimes even our direction in life.
The truth is, things happen in your personal life, and they will without question affect your work-life ... and vice versa. Things can happen at work, and naturally, your private life is affected.
So what do you do?
Even though it is easier said than done, the truth is that even though you cannot control everything that may happen to you, you can control your response. And that is what's either going to add to the chaos or calm it down.
And we humans are so great at adding more fuel to the fire simply by overreacting based on feelings and assumptions, and oftentimes, false or incomplete information. What we need to do instead is to act or respond based on what we actually know about the situation and not based on what we currently feel - which is vital to the health of any relationship - business or personal.
Life is a journey. The good news is that you get to decide how fast you go and how fast you GROW - all based on your level of awareness, your growth mindset, a relentless discipline, and of course, a humble willingness to take responsibility for your actions and results.